CHICAGO—Unable to picture where in the Grand Realm the destroyed fortress was in relation to the dreaded desert of Quiltar, a fully grown adult man referred to the map on the opening pages of the fantasy novel The Tower Of Astalon Friday to d…
I'm AFAB and still not sure what my gender is, I just know that I'm not a girl. The thing is though, when I see myself in a relationship with a girl it feels like a gay relationship but when I see myself in a relationship with a guy it feels like a gay relationship as well...
So…you’re basically a gigantic homosexual, huh?
KIDDING. You sound nonbinary. This means you’re not necessarily a boy or a girl— somewhere inbetween, maybe both, maybe something else entirely. That’s cool. A ton of trans friends feel similarly.
“A researcher tells the following story about her own experience of discovering the seriousness with which young children take gender stereotypes. While interviewing 3 to 6 year olds about their career aspirations, she asked each of them what they would want to be when they grew up if they were members of the opposite sex. Their responses showed that not only did most of the children choose careers that fit the stereotypes of the other gender but also that their perceptions of the limitations imposed by gender were sometimes quite extreme. One little girl confided with a sigh that her true ambition was to fly like a bird, but she could never do it because she was not a boy! One little boy put his hands on his head, sighed deeply, and said helplessly that if he were a girl he would have to grow up and be nothing (Beuf, 1974 as cited by Lips, 2008, p. 401).”—
“You’re born with a ton of fucks to give, so you spend them like a kid with a credit card. You give fucks about your friends, about your grades, about your fashion sense, about strangers’ opinions. You give way too many fucks about way too many things. You have so many. Then, as you get older, you have maybe 10 fucks per month, so you learn to budget them. You allocate fucks to family and career, but there aren’t enough fucks to give to the newest fads. Oh, someone at work has something they need my help with that’s outside my job title? I’ll do my best to allocate some fucks, but this month is pretty tight. Then, as you get even older, you’re down to 1-2 fucks per month, and those fucks are pretty damn precious. You give them to your family and your hobbies and your job, and that’s kinda it. It’s not your fault – fucks expire too quickly. I would’ve liked to save my fucks from when I was younger but I can’t. Then, you hit fuck insolvency. You’re getting like 1 fuck a year, and you have to make it last. So you go without, and even previously fuck-worthy things, you just can’t give a fuck. Some people run out really quickly, Some people have a fuck trust fund that pays out a decent amount even into old age. But at some point, the fuck faucet runs completely dry and you’re out of fucks to give. It’s just basic Fuckonomics.”—
you;re doing the dumbass what yall called sad pastel boy/fuck boy thing where you were responsible for some terrible invective against innocent people but responding with " sorryfhj im trash im sorry im sorry" to take the heat off of you doing something genuinely regretful. of course people arent leaping to coddle you.
i didnt read any of this but have you ever read homestuck.
i think the best part of homestuck is the fact that, really until nearly after the end of act 5, the characters don’t really speak together. like sure, we see dave and jade kind of hanging out on lofaf, doing the frog breeding thing, but the important thing to note with that is that we don’t see dialogue of that event. when we see characters talking, there is always a barrier between them, whether it be via an instant messenging device or a dream bubble, or fuck maybe they’re even asleep.
and i really think this kind of speaks to the strangeness of having internet friends. these are people who exist to you via text. maybe youve spoken to them on a skype chat, or maybe you’ve traded selfies or two. this friendship, however, despite having no physical contact is not any lesser than any other friendship. homestuck goes out of its way to show us this, through the strong bonds the characters have formed as they traipse about sburb and almost consistently miss moments where they could pause and have a real chat with each other.
i can understand why a lot of people were angry with act 6, because it did away with that barrier between the characters in a lot of the cases. instead of interacting through different mediums, the characters now interact on a “real” level, real here meaning physical. however, to kind of muddy it up, hussie splits the characters up in such a way that no one is completely comfortable where they are. new friendships are formed, at least in the meteor. in john and jade on that fucking spaceship, we see the growth of john, our main character, our near avatar, into what one could actually call a real teen boy. he’s angry and disaffected, confused about the things he once loved, unable to communicate his displeasure that the Memories of Events do not Match the Realities he is going through.
the alphas, however, offer something different than the beta kids. the alpha kids are separated not only by geographical distance, but also by time. dirk and roxy, as you may know, exist hundreds of years in the future. this is another layer of space between the characters, yet despite this space, their friendships only grow.
and whats interesting is the relationship between caliborn and calliope and the kids. these friendships that they form, even though i shudder to call what caliborn feels as anything near friendship, irrevocably changed them. most cherubs, it can be assumed, do not have the luxury of a trollian client, nor do they have the Luxury or being able to easily communicate with themselves. these friendships, however distanced and filled with space, change them into something almost unlike cherub, almost human.
calliope, while certainly the “good half” if one can even call a cherub Good in the human sense, would not have been the same person had she not hungered for the kinds of friendships that she saw in her reading of homestuck. the separation between these friends was meaningless to her, because even having friends was something new and exciting, nearly anathema to her species. ultimately, however, it is her friendships that cause her to weaken, cause her to think she could ever make a pact, meaningful or otherwise with her brother.
caliborn, certainly the “evil half” although i struggle to define any other Red Cheeked Cherub as being evil in any way a human can understand, is, too, changed by these friendships. his friendship with Dirk nets him the first look at his juju, at the repository for his soul. through dirk, he is able to build the leg that he uses to replace what he has to bite off to escape. and it is funny, then, that friendship only really benefitted the cherub who did not want it, who considered it disgusting. he literally fetishizes his disgust at this kind of relationship, yet without it, without gamzee and without his mastery of the felt, he would have never been able to finish his game, would have never been able to Become Lord English.
i think, then, given all of those words i just said, the simplest, happiest moment of homestuck is when john sees his friends teleported on to lomax and smiles, the widest smile he has ever made in canon. in this moment, we see his teenage disillusionment about the friendships he had made, constantly separated by space and time, and some only lasting for a day. in finally allowing john to see them, we, the reader, can finally understand the nature of friendship.
this is, of course, not saying that any friendship that does not ultimately culminate in a face-to-face interaction is lacking. in homestuck, the face-to-face meeting is the culmination of bending space and time, of doing impossible miracles, and to many people who have internet friends they treasure, it may seem that it would require diving through the fabric of paradox space in a meteor.
“Due to its unique characteristics, glitter has also proven to be useful forensic evidence. Because of the tens of thousands of different commercial glitters, identical glitter particles can be compelling evidence that a suspect has been at a crime scene. Glitter particles are easily transferred through the air or by touch, yet cling to bodies and clothing, often unnoticed by suspects”—the more u kno (via portmanteaurian)
i’m just completely fucking baffled by gamergate. months later. people driven out of their homes. death threats. an ongoing campaign to KEEP harassing people. documented proof of it.
and the people who are - presumably - not harassing anyone over it, want to talk about “ethics in games journalism”.
ethics in games reviews is fucking unimportant. it always was, but now more than ever, because you can get perspectives from about a billion other people in the flash of an eye.
fuck video games, fuck gamers.
how the fuck could you possibly be this angry over video game reviews that you’d make up a whole campaign over it that achieves basically nothing. how? why?
are people this fucking mad that they once blew 60 dollars on a bad video game based on someone from gamespot’s or IGN’s recommendation?
entitled ass consumer pieces of shit.
video game reviews are unimportant. unbelievably unimportant. i need you to understand that. they are so unimportant too, because you can read a million other people’s opinions, or watch video of the game itself.
I'm not saying white privilege doesn't exist on a global scale, it does. It just bothers me when Americans try to dictate other people's identifies when they know nothing about their country, or their people's struggles, or treat everyone as though they're American/responsible for American issues, while at the same time not caring at all about issues in other countries.
that imo is “American privilege”- it’s a problem here on tumblr. Like yeah, to my American followers, I know lots of you try to learn and I wouldn’t generalise to say all Americans do this- but there’s a big problem especially amongst popular social justice blogs here.
What is very disturbing about the tumblr social justice discourse is that a lot of popular US social justice bloggers like to splatter the US categorisation of race and understanding of racism over the rest of the world. Race, and racism- are both social creations. Therefore, it only makes sense that they can vary from society to society. Here are some issues:
1. Things like insisting that white people cannot face racism in the world. I’m sorry, but I can tell you that’s BULLSHIT in Europe, at least. How people are othered operates differently sometimes. It’s pretty obvious I have Chinese ancestry, for example, but I speak fluent English. That often makes me seem more assimilated and less of an “Other” in the UK, than the immigrant worker from Poland whose accent is plainly obvious. Do Chinese people face racism in the UK? I’m sure they do sometimes.
But my point is that the way xenophobia and hostility is targeted isn’t always based on skin colour. The Holocaust, the Nazis’ deliberate starvation and mistreatment of Soviet soldiers, the genocide of Bosnians by Serbians are all instances where genocide was committed against people who WOULD be racialised as “white” in the US, who were genetically European. I will seriously throttle anyone who dares to suggest no racism is involved or tries to literally posthumously say claim the victims are “POC” to fit their narrative that global oppression is “White people oppressing POC!!!” ( E.g “Bosnians were not really white because they were Muslims.” WRONG. Genetically they are Slavic people- like Russians, Ukrainians…and Serbians themselves). There was more about cultural otherness, religious divisions at play here, about Serbian nationalism really, rather than seeing Bosnians as “less white”.
Bosnian Muslims in concentration camps in the 1990s
The experiences of “white people” are far from universal AND they can be very familiar with racism, oppression and marginalisation. I mean like try telling a recent Russian immigrant to the US who was descended from Russian serfs that he has MORAL RESPONSIBILITY for slavery in the US? Geez. Yes, maybe he’d benefit from “white privilege” but to say his ancestors benefited from it would be nonsensical when they were getting similarly abused by landowners in the 1800s Imperial Russia. Please tell me how a US POC is necessarily always more familiar with oppression than a Polish person or German whose family lived under Soviet authoritarianism right up till 1989, who lived in fear of the Stasi, aka the East German secret police?
An extremely privileged, white Russian serf girl listening as two landowners bargain over how much they want to pay for her.
This is an example of ridiculous mental gymnastics to maintain the “White people oppress POC!!!” paradigm.
Haha, ok. So this person (it’s a US blogger) has proclaimed Ashkenazim are not white. Alright, how about some…experts? Like real Ashkenazi Jewish people?
How about this other Jewish person’s opinion?
See? The “wtf Ashkenazim aren’t white they will slap you” person was American-splaining (yes, they are American) European race categories with clearly a US-centric understanding of race and subconscious failure to realise for Ashkenazi Jewish people, the definition of whiteness CAN FLUCTUATE in the US vs Europe. I understand that how Jewish people conceptualise identity can vary and may not fall neatly into “whiteness” or “non-white”. But the quarrel I have with that comment is because it’s obvious that person completely refused to countenance the notion that those people murdered in the Holocaust could be “white” because they don’t want to think about the complexity of racism around the world, they just want to perpetuate the narrative that racism globally is “white people oppress POC!!!” And that’s wrong, if you are gonna distort and step on other victims’ experiences for your own ends, no matter how noble your own cause is.
(Btw, MANY Ashkenazi Americans identify and do look “white” in the US.) Genetically, studies show they’ve enormous amounts of European ancestry because it seems European Jewish communities were formed from constant intermarriage with European women for CENTURIES, before they started to marry within the community. Just imagine how minimal their non-European heritage might be by then- 80% of Ashkenazim can trace their maternal line to prehistoric Europe. See why oversimplifying Nazi racism as “less-white” is kind of a wrong paradigm to understand it? And how it’s kind of wrong if you are so insistent on denying “white people” can face racism when we are not talking about neo-Nazis saying “white genocide!!!” about immigration, but real crimes against people?
2. “POC” cannot be racist. Sure. I’m laughing. I guess it wasn’t racism AT ALL when officers in the Imperial Japanese Army said they saw Chinese people as “subhuman”. When one of my family’s most awful experience of imperialism was under the Empire of Japan during World War 2. Where Chinese people were buried alive and experimented on. Young men executed en masse. Women forced to become “comfort women” (aka forced prostitution) to service the Imperial Japanese Army. So, my teenage grandmother bound her chest, cut her hair and rubbed her face with ash- and spent the entire time disguised as a boy in order that she wouldn’t be raped. All war crimes the Japanese government doesn’t want to apologise for even till today.
So, saying “POC” cannot be racist (or oppressive in general) is offensive precisely because it lets governments who haven’t apologised off the hook. Because, hooray, all racism and oppression only comes from what is the US understanding of “white people” (European origin?) ! How about Ottoman Turkey’s genocide of 1 million+++ Armenians, Greeks and Assyrians? (Greeks! “White” victims at the hands of “non-white” people? I know, shocking, but it has happened. Also, it’s another debate whether Turkey can be so easily be considered “non-European”.) Hideous things like forced death marches to the desert. If what the white settlers did to the Native Americans is genocide, what the Ottoman Empire did to their Christian subjects sure as hell is genocide too. Like you know what, yes I’m glad Turkey criticises Israel for its policies towards Palestinians which indeed look like ethnic cleansing- but at the same time…I think, “what about you? When are YOU going to admit those 1 million people were murdered because you wanted to exterminate them?”
Wanna bet that anon earlier doesn’t know who this guy is? He’s Mehmet Talaat Pasha btw, Grand Vizier of the Ottoman Empire and chief architect of the Armenian genocide.
How about the “Death Railway”, where plenty of “white” POWS died working in conditions of near slavery building a railway line for the Empire of Japan, treated no better than the Asian labourers working alongside them?
That’s why the term “POC” doesn’t speak much of solidarity to me with that kind of history. Outside the US…it’s very often meaningless. In Europe, it’s already problematic because it obscures inter-European racism, and in countries where non-European people are a majority, some of the worst things we have suffered were by the hands of other “POC”. And that is exactly why the term “POC” and the entire “white people oppress POC” dichotomy SHOULD NOT be indiscriminately spilled all over non-US contexts and pre-US history.
3. If you’re an American person of colour, I’m going ask you, as a non-American and fellow non-white person, to think twice about trying to claim solidarity with all non-white people around the world and blaming all problems like modern capitalism and exploitation on “White supremacy”. Because that is not true, because that is a shameful abdication of recognising our moral culpability in other forms of oppression.
Like…US POCs, imo, are quite culpable in US foreign policy imperialism. How can they not be? Many do benefit from America’s political hegemony over the world even if within their country they’re less privileged than white Americans and still face discrimination. But vis a vis some poor person in another country about to be trampled by the boot of US foreign policy, they are privileged. Many US POCs serve in the US Army. The President is a person of colour.
One cannot claim equivalency in marginalisation with the Pakistani man whose family was killed in a mistargeted drone strike- because you are a US citizen. Just as I can’t claim I’m somehow as oppressed by capitalist exploitation as those Chinese villagers whose water supply got poisoned by factories making goods for the MNCs. Because although my great grandparents were poor Chinese who left China amidst the strife caused by the Opium Wars, I am not them. I had an infinitely more privileged upbringing, because I am a consumer in the developed world and actually on the other side- the side that in many ways enables oppression. My hands may be clean vis a vis white supremacy, but they ARE NOT when it comes to the way the developing world is exploited. Are wealthy Chinese businesspeople who mistreat their workers free of moral blame?
Are these people
as underprivileged or institutionally oppressed as these?
Are these two’s experiences, privilege and power
EXACTLY the same as these rural Kenyan kids- who are happy that they now have access to clean running water?
(Yes, Kenya and the African continent as a whole have made great strides. But it is a fact that these children face more challenges and have fewer opportunities and are much less privileged than most Americans.)
Just because we have been wronged by others in the past doesn’t mean we may not be hurting others now, and that we don’t have a responsibility to stop it.
It is one thing to talk about your own experiences and raise awareness about the injustices you face. That is great and should be supported. But it is another to step on other victims so your narrative of oppression is the loudest and drowns them all out. Oppression is not a contest, and we can talk about our experiences in SOLIDARITY with one another, recognising that throughout human history, racism and oppression has worn MANY faces around the world- not just white ones.
If you are interested in watching Matt Parkman from Heroes fight a giant spider with a group of racial stereotypes and an inexplicably incompetent group of Army special forces, I highly suggest the film Big Ass Spider! which is available on Netflix.
I get “fake geek girl” BS in job interviews. I have skipped applying for programming jobs because the ads promote the “bro-centric company culture,” where it is common to drink beer and no one complains about your naughty sense of humor. I have applied at companies that won’t interview me for the position that I’m qualified for because the type of programming that I do is more typical for guys and this other type over here that I don’t do is more typical for girls; in order to show how inclusive of women they are, they strongly encourage me to apply for [girl job] despite me being grossly overqualified for [boy job that I can’t be interviewed for]. I have gone to interviews where it is made clear to me that I’m the affirmative action candidate, that they were intrigued by my claim to play video games [which I was tested on], and then had the technical interviewer act astounded because during my whiteboarding exercise, I followed a coding standard that prevents a security breach and no other applicants did— and then not gotten the job. I have had jobs where my opinion was dismissed by my superiors who were less qualified than me, who repeatedly interrupted me during demos to tell me that I’m doing the demo wrong on a product that the interrupter has never used— and then gotten fired for calmly standing up to him.
So let me tell you why there are so few games with strong female protagonists and so few games with characters that women can identify with as idealized heroes: games are made by men for themselves.
“Unfortunately, the worst part of the situation has indeed been the news media. Radio stations suggested that Ebola would be spread far and wide around Kent and Cleveland, that the plane the patient flew on should have been nuked and never used again, baggage handlers at Cleveland Hopkins International Airport should be quarantined because “they may have touched her suitcase” and that everyone was at risk, no matter how tenuous their connection to the area and the patient.
there are people who are praising ahs for being ~inclusive~ b/c they hired a trans woman to play the role of a trans woman in a series titled “freak show” when (a) they were only looking for a man to play this role and (b) she had to audition as a dude to get it. they only got a trans woman to play the role of a trans woman by accident and against their best efforts, you can stop lauding them as progressive for calling us freaks now.